You can find the missing words to the blank spaces in your Everyday Conflict Coaching participant manual below. The missing words are shown in bold.
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P – Prepare
A – Affirm the relationship
U – Understand interests
S – Search for creative solutions
E – Evaluate options
4 promises of forgiveness
1. I promise I will not DWELL on this incident.
2. I promise I will not BRING UP this incident and use it against you.
3. I promise I will not TALK to others about this incident.
4. I promise I will not allow this incident to STAND between us or HINDER our personal relationship.
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Five spiritual disciplines to help us serve as good conflict coaches.
1. Read the Bible daily
2. Interact with what you read
3. Get into the habit of confessing out loud
4. Learn to pray in a way that actually releases things to God, and appropriates his answers
5. Meet and share, deeply, with one or up to three others, multiple times a year
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A good listener…
1. eggs us on
2. urges clarification
3. don’t moralise
4. separates disagreement from criticism
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Things we deeply want or crave
Things we fear wrongly
Misplaced trust / trust of self
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Be comfortable with silence
Remember your goal is to encourage and help the party to respond in a biblical and godly way
Beware of rabbit holes!
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How can I please and honour God?
How can I serve the other person?
How can I become more like Jesus?
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Reminder: four promises of forgiveness
Reminder: PAUSE principle